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10 minute | Reflection

Feedback Reflection

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  • What was it like giving & receiving feedback?
  • What limiting beliefs are you becoming aware of?
  • What are you taking responsibility for as a result of the feedback you have received?

Be honest. Only you and your coach has access to this data.

10 minute | Reflection

Beliefs Map

  • Are my beliefs pulling me above or below the line?
  • Are my beliefs true / real?
  • What would be possible if I changed my beliefs?
  • What new belief could I create to achieve what I know is possible? 

Be honest. Only you and your coach has access to this data.

5 minute | Reflection

Taking Responsibility

  • What am I avoiding responsibility for?
  • Where can I take responsibility & increase my sense of control & influence?

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5 minute | Reflection

Communication reflection

  • Did I communicate Above The Line or Below The Line today?
  • What was the impact of my communication?

Be honest. Only you and your coach has access to this data.

Discovering The Impact

When you think about your communication & what was the impact on you, your team & your work, can you find it on the guide?

Work / Project

  • Projects run on time/budget
  • High-quality work
  • Clear pathway forward irrespective of external factors that create uncertainty
  • Customers are happy
  • Business growth
  • New opportunities are created
  • Forward momentum
  • Positive culture
  • Abundance of creativity & innovation

Team

  • Everyone in the team participates
  • People support each other and use positive language
  • When someone is having a hard-time, everyone wants to jump in and help
  • People go above and beyond to help
  • People trust each other
  • People feel free to give feedback
  • Failure is seen as growth

You

  • Relaxed / absence of chronic stress
  • I know what I am doing, what my purpose is
  • I know that I can ask for help
  • I feel connected to my team
  • I know if I make a mistake, people will have my back and help me learn
  • I am passionate & excited about what I am doing
  • I feel energised coming into work
  • I can provide feedback to everyone & feel safe doing so

Winning: Above the line

Open / Connected / Energised / Focused / Growth Oriented / Optimistic / Innovative

Reactive / Defensive / Conflict / Distracted / Blame / Pessimistic / Stagnant / Disconnected

Losing: Below the line

Work / Project

  • Project delays/budget blowouts
  • Error-filled work / things go wrong
  • Unclear / no pathway forward
  • Customers are frustrated
  • Business is stagnant
  • No opportunities, only challenges
  • Everything feels hard
  • Blaming / Complaining culture
  • Scarcity mindset; nothing ever feels good enough

Team

  • Not everyone participates
  • Certain people dominate the conversation
  • Team feels disconnected
  • People work alone / in silos
  • Imbalance of work load across the team
  • Serious vibe
  • People don’t problem solve together
  • Problems become bigger than they need to be

You

  • I feel stressed out
  • I feel like I have to it all by myself
  • I feel afraid of people at work
  • I don’t know who to turn to to ask for help & support
  • I am worried about making mistakes & feel like I have to always get it right
  • I replay conversations in my head and worry about what people in my team think about me
  • I worry about whether I am good at my job

Locating Your Communication

Scan through different situations in your work day and reflect on the Statements, Behaviours & Mindsets you are bringing to each. Locate whether you are communicating Above the line or Below the line using the reference map below.

Statements

  • What can I learn from this?
  • How is the opposite as true?
  • How is this familiar?
  • I appreciate you for….
  • I take responsibility for…
  • I agree to…
  • I choose to…
  • I created…
  • How is this for me?
  • What I hear you saying…
  • Tell me more…
  • I feel…(sad, angry, scared, joyful, creative)

Behaviours

  • Relax under pressure / stress
  • Significantly change my posture
  • Take responsibility
  • Question my beliefs
  • Feel emotions
  • Listen actively
  • Speak unarguably
  • Make agreements
  • Appreciate & acknowledge others
  • Create a win for all situation
  • Be creative & collaborative
  • Deal with the facts not the circumstances

Mindsets

  • I am responsible
  • There are more than two possibilities
  • It is valuable to question my thoughts and beliefs
  • My feelings are intelligent
  • Approval, control and security are something I already have
  • I assume positive intent
  • I am curious & open
  • I am prepared to take action
  • Play and rest are key to peak performance

Winning: Above the line

Responsive / Curious / Growth & Learning

Reactive / Defensive / Recycling Drama

Losing: Below the line

Statements

  • I/You/They should
  • I/You/ They can’t
  • I’m right/They’re wrong
  • It’s hard
  • I’m trying
  • It’s not my fault
  • I’m confused
  • The “truth” is
  • I have to
  • You made me
  • I’m sorry (with an excuse)
  • Always/Never
  • “Why” questions
  • You’re not listening to me
  • It’s no use/I give up
  • My way or the highway
  • They don’t get it

Behaviours

  • Hold your breath
  • Fight/Flee/Freeze/Faint
  • See others as needing help
  • Find fault/Blame
  • Cling to an opinion/argue
  • Rationalise/Justify
  • Gossip
  • Get overwhelmed
  • Suppress emotions
  • Use distractions to relieve pain (food, media, work)
  • Enrol others to affirm my beliefs
  • Avoid all disconfirming data
  • Be sloppy with your agreements
  • Avoid conflict
  • Be judgmental (right/wrong, good/bad)

Mindsets

  • Being right is the most important thing
  • There is a threat to me occurring out there
  • There is not “enough”
  • I need another’s approval
  • Safety and security come from outside myself
  • I need to be in “control” (of things I can’t control)
  • There are only two options
  • To get to a solution, I have to be serious
  • I am better than/less than
  • There is a right/wrong way
  • There is no choice
  • My story about the situation is true

10 minute | Reflection

Weekly Reflection

The goal of a your weekly reflection is to review the week, the wins & the challenges, so that you can take the learnings forward.

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2 minute | Performance

What's your worry

By identifying what’s worrying you & making a plan, you get freedom to do something about it.

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1 minute | Reflection

Time to journal

Log an idea or a moment of learning. Think of your journal as a resource you can look back on for learnings. 

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1 minute | Reflection

Time to check-in

The goal of a your check-in is to develop the mental skill of Awareness & track your progress over time.

Be honest. Only you and your coach has access to this data.

Take a mindful moment

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